So today has been most wonderful and I am very happy so I am going to start with all the happiness in my life before I go further into the main topic today. Last night I was talking with Aaron and WOW he is such a great person and the common areas are many. The more we get to know each other the more I feel like I have met the one that I could see myself with for a life time. Smart, charming, educated, loving, the list goes on…even been through some of the same bad experiences that I have…I am so lucky to have this opportunity for happiness and to share life with someone that is so great…its beyond words. Best part is we are both taking this slow and I like that !! So Adorable Aaron I am grinning from ear to ear as you make me feel wonderful !! To the future and all that brings
Now for the main thought on my mind as of late… Marriage equality. I know this is a charged subject and I respect all sides, however I feel that the time has come that if 2 people wish to commit a life together than they should be able to. A friend of mine commented: “ Marriage is not an institution, its a relationship....” I agree. I am of the thought that if for whatever the reason you want to call marriage of same sex couples civil unions…I am ok with that, provided I am afforded the same benefits and protections that heterosexual marriages are afforded. Yes I can register domestic partnership, but what about filing joint taxes and the tax breaks 2 married people get?? What about the discounts for insurance ?? Medical directive of the partner in the event they are un-able to express their wishes…estate issues…what about if 2 gay people have children…not only is there no protection for the surviving partner, we do not get tax credits, The list goes on…I know what the original intent of marriage was..but lets be honest how many get married just for that reason. In and of its self a civil union as they now stand are a symbolic gesture of the love 2 people share but if that relationship does not last then they just split…there is no divorce and I for one feel way too many people go into marriage with out thinking about the rough spots and divorce. I feel marriage is a very serious thing and I think it should be taken seriously…including on working on the rough spots. I guess for me it comes down to equal rights for all citizens, not special rights. I am Matthew and that is a complex number of things including the small part which is my sexual orientation. I should be afforded the same benefits should I choose to marry, and I am one that if I got married it would be forever. Not every one can say that. I take it very seriously. I just want to be able to put my partner on my insurance if I like or visa versa. If I should have a child I want all the responsibilities and protections for them. I would like to be able to have joint property if I want with out the run around way 2 same sex people have to do it now…I do not want my partners family being able to exclude me from medical issues if my partner cannot speak for himself, I do not want to have the extra hassle should it come to matters of the estate. You married Heterosexuals get all of that automatically and it is harder to challenge if the family wants to, not me. I know not every church is going to open me and my partner with open arms…fine. I can deal with that. Some will argue there are bigger issues and I agree balanced budgets and better education is vital. However the time has come that Gay Marriage or what ever you like to call it is allowed to be…The arguments about more important things will never go away…there will always be something that needs attention…SO no I am not going to sit back and wait anymore. Sometimes in life we have to make the time to make things happen…This is the time. Enough is enough.
I also want to state that I love and adore all of my family and friends, no matter their thoughts about this…this is a battle that I will joining my gay brothers and sisters and fight for. The black’s fought for the same rights as whites, they were not after special rights, just equal rights…that is all I am asking for. That is not so hard or out of line. So no matter we agree on this or not I love you. I would be sad if the day were to come and I was to get married and you choose not to be there, but I will respect you, despite being hurt that you chose not to join me in the happiest time in my life.
So now that I have stated my case I will step down from my soap box…I have said my peace and stated my case. I also have other tings in life to be concerned about, but this one is top of the list. Have an Awesome Day Everyone 
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