So today I thought of many things I could write about and so today I am going to write on several subjects.
Yesterday I took a somewhat relaxing day…Ok there was shoveling to be done, dishes to be put away and washed and yes I even baked some banana muffins…but for me that is slowing down !!!
Yesterday I spent a fair deal of time thinking back to all of the various times of my life as I was going through some old photo’s. It was a fun trip down memory lane. I also thought about all the people that touched my life that for what ever reason we no longer are in touch. I was telling a friend of mine about this. We agreed that although it is life, it is rather sad. The people that you wonder what ever happened to ??? I wish them all the happiness in life and I am sure most of them are doing that. I shudder to think of a few I some how do not think are with us any more and for them I hope that they are in a peaceful place.
I wanted to touch on DOMA…Yes I am excited to see that it is being no longer enforced and we are one step closer to marriage equality. This is a subject that is near and dear to me for many reasons…I want to get married some time in life and I will only do that once. I am blessed to be in a state that honors domestic partnerships and that is a step but I want the whole thing. Personally I will live with the term civil unions as long as that brings me all of the same perks that marriage gives. I understand that some would argue that the federal government should not be involved. I take the stance that we should allow gay’s to join as one. Civil unions now are only symbolic…yes there are some ways to get legal protections for things like joint property and the right to visit in a hospital but why should I have to pay a lawyer thousands and have several extra documents ?? If 2 people wish to commit themselves for life why not…and how about adoption. I can adopt and it would be nice to have parents that were married or what ever term that might be given. Also tax benefits…why should 2 straight people get extra breaks just because they are married ?? Insurance is also cheaper. Gay people should be able to do that and get said benefits. I guess time will tell and I will be advocating that I am allowed to have all that my straight counterparts get.
I also have been thinking just what is a relationship all about ??? Why do so many gay men feel the need to not be serious when it comes to relationships ? I am live and let live and if you want to be single all of your life then go for it. But why do so many get into relationships only to end them with out working on the issue ?? And open relationships…to me that is an oxy-moron. Yes I was in a relationship once that we brought in a 3rd and never again. I think of a relationship and I think of monogamy. I also know that when there are disagreements you work on them. You do not throw in the towel just because of a small argument. I think too many gay men are too careless when they get involved and forget about all of the parameters of a relationship. For me I am attracted to the personality the values and the goals first. Yes I have to have physical attraction to the other but it is not first on the list. I also do not rush to sleep with the person. A good relationship takes getting to know each other and when the time comes for sex that is a special time. I guess I am a hopeless romantic and seek out that in a partner. I have a special someone and although it is still new in the actual dating process, this is someone that I have known for 6 years. We are going slow and enjoying all that is in the courtship phase. It is refreshing that I have someone who like me is interested in a lifetime commitment and not endless dating. Time will tell and I will share more as that time comes, but for now I am very happy and looking forward to building a foundation with him.
So this Friday I smile for all my beloved friends family and the special one. The sun is shining and although its freezing out my heart is warm with all the love that I have for all of you. You make my life blessed and I cannot tell you enough how much I appreciate that !!!! Have an EPIC weekend
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